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Elust 115

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Photo courtesy of Katteroo Welcome to Elust 115- The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #116? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
Your Loss
Ask for It
~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~Two Explorers
Sweet Child of Mine
~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~{Na}Scent Traces

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Elust 114

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Photo courtesy of Rebel's Notes Welcome to Elust 114- The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #115? Start with the rules, come back February1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  
~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~The Painful Truth...
As Wet As I Get
Three, in the end
~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~Pachelbel
Window
~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~FemDom {T}ropes *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!  
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & RelationshipsMx Nillin Fucks... Socks…

Not Micromanaging My Pleasure

When it comes to my partner pleasing me, (through massage, all over kisses, stroking, oral, or sex), I prefer to just lay back and enjoy.

There seems to be this idea that the Domme in question is going to oversee everything. Yes, lick in X spot for Y minutes and 33 seconds and hold your hand thusly while kneeling in this fashion.

That's just not me at all. I want to see what he'll do to please me, I want to be surprised by a sudden change or teased a bit on occasion.

It just seems somehow more submissive to me when it's his idea to do something he knows I'll like rather than following an order. Plus, it forces him to pay attention to my reactions, and thus be entirely focused on me, rather than counting in his head and wondering if he's doing it right.

Also, boys can get pretty creative when you give them some leeway and I might learn I liked something I had no idea about.

Being petted to sleep, for example.

I'm addicted.


Gifts?

Submission is a gift (trophy, medallion, donut, diploma, insert your preferred word here). Given to the D type that has earned the honor through displays of respect and the building of trust.

But what about dominance? It seems to me, as I search for a new partner, that a submissive is expected to withhold their virginity submissiveness for just the right Dom. They shouldn't just be a doormat and let just anyone walk over them or boss them around. I agree with that, btw, but what about the other side?

It seems I am expected to just suddenly take control of every situation, be my full on Domly Dom Domme self immediately once a submissive type person shows the slightest interest in me. Um, no.

If one can understand that submission must be earned, why is it so hard to see that dominance must be earned as well?


Flashback - Sleeping on the floor

My recent experience with someone sleeping on the floor has me thinking about a few decades ago when I was still delusional and trying to be submissive.

As I've said before, I was very bad at it and constantly topped from the bottom and I think this floor sleeping story will illustrate that quite nicely.

I was shopping when I saw an area rug. It was a rectangle, around 2 X 3 feet, white and faux fur. I had been reading the Gor books and the slaves slept on furs in those books. (Well, I think most everyone slept on furs, but it's been 20 years, I don't really remember). Anyway, I immediately decided that I would buy this "fur" and sleep on the floor. But only for the time between my going to bed and John's going to bed, at which point he was to wake me up so I could get into bed.

So now that I had decided that I would, oh so submissively, sleep on the floor for an hour or so each night I had to figure out how to make it comfortable. I think I wound up with two…

Sleeping on the floor

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I've been chatting with a new potential submissive partner lately. Last night before I crawled into my nice warm bed, (that I am in complete love with lately, by the way) I thought I'd send him a message to tell him to sleep naked, as a fun and easy show of submission.

At the last minute, I decided I was feeling a bit more on the sadistic side. And a little shaky in my confidence that people can actually be submissive when they're not getting orgasms in return, due to recent interactions with a man whose submission didn't exactly groove on the same wavelength as my dominance.

And so, instead of asking him to sleep in the nude, I sent a text telling him to make himself a pallet on the floor next to his bed and sleep there. Then I waited for his response. Since this is a relatively new interaction I figured I'd get one of three possible responses:

1. OMG, I'll go grab some nettles to sleep on. Are you sure you wouldn't rather chain me in the basement after th…

Elust 113

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Photo courtesy of Quinn Rhodes Welcome to Elust 113- The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #114? Start with the rules, come back January1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~The Source of Control
Town Use
FOMO is NOT how my vagina feels about sex.
~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~The Weight of my Red Self
Mistletoe kisses
~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~If you want a job done… *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
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