Poly and Kinky

In my ongoing quest to find another D/s relationship, I've talked to a lot of men who identify as submissive online. A lot of these men view submission as a fetish and are therefore only interested in being submissive when it will get their dick hard, which is valid, but not what I'm looking for. The problem with that is that some of them are either very good at hiding this fact or have so little self-awareness that they don't realize it themselves and think they are ready to be submissive inside and outside the bedroom. It's hot to think of giving up control of your orgasms. Being required to ask for permission to orgasm or being locked in a chastity device appeals to a lot of submissive leaning men. The thought of performing oral servitude for hours seems hot in theory as well. He thinks " surely if I go down on her she'll reward me with an orgasm too" or "it would be so hot to feel myself pushing against the binding of a chastity device" b

It’s been far too long since someone rested their cheek on my foot, wrapped their arms around my waist and held on seeking comfort after harshness. Too long since I’ve released the part of myself that stays pent up much of the time. She who lives in a cave and likes the dark. She who craves to gnaw on her prey’s bones extracting every bit they’ll give up. She whose spine tingles with delight as those red marks appear, as the blood comes to the skin as the gasps and moans grow louder and more abandoned. She who delights in the sight of a wrist wrapped in a cuff or rope but even more in a naked wrist held in place only by the desire to please her. She who revels in the sight of the back of a man’s neck, so strong but so vulnerable and much more handsome wrapped in a collar.